Have you ever lost a valuable item at home? After hours and hours of endless searching, looking high and low for this particular item, you flop on the couch and shout at the universe, “I give up!”
And in that exact moment of surrender, you feel something underneath you… turns out, the TV remote was on the couch all along.
Do you ever wonder why this happens? Why is it that when we decide to stop looking, stop searching, or stop trying so hard, the best things just effortlessly fall into our laps?
Sometimes, love works like this too. They say that the best things in life come when you least expect it, including love. Some love stories work like a plot twist in one’s life – no one could have ever seen it coming. But why?
One theory suggests that, when we misplace something or when we look for something, we go into an anxious mode and create a narrative in our heads to make sense of our situation. We place our expectations in the wrong places – We expect our TV remote to be somewhere near the TV, or we expect to find the love of our life straight after college. But, most of the time, it doesn’t work that way.
It is only when we let go of the false narratives in our heads, when we let go of the misplaced expectations, that we gain enough clarity to continue with our lives and let the universe work to give us what we have been searching for all along.
It’s mostly still a mystery, why the best things can come to us unexpectedly. We only need to believe that what is ours will be ours in the end. With this kind of confidence, we can be patient, we can stop striving and rest easy… and believe that love will find its way to us.