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Learning to Love You Better
Julian & Priscillia Prewedding by Aha
Sep 2020

I have learned, yet I am learning still, to love and to be loved. Just when I thought I knew it all, I found myself naive and clueless. Just when I thought I had it all figured out – how this relationship thing works, how to respond to such and such situation, all the other how-tos and all the other don’ts – just when I thought I had already held within the palm of my hands every key to successful relationships, I realised that there are so many other sides of you that I have yet to discover. That your heart is still your own, not some kind of formula for me to decipher. I realised that there are still so many other sides of love that I have yet to uncover – how to love you better, how to better express my gratitude for the love you have so generously given me. 


I realized that we still aren’t exempt from making mistakes. One moment, I could be your definition of perfection; an angel; the kindest, most understanding person that you would ever meet. But I have my not-so-perfect moments. Sometimes, you would even wish you had an enormous cream pie at hand to just smash it to my face. And that’s okay, as long as I vow to learn from my mistakes, my imperfections, my flaws.


There’s really no end to this – this learning journey, this loving journey. I am learning as I go, and I have chosen you to be my learning partner, to learn alongside me as we traverse. To grow alongside me in patience and forgiveness. And I shall not give much attention to my own idea of how to love you. Instead, I shall keep an open ear, an open heart, and listen attentively to you – What is it that makes your eyes soften, your heart flutter, your cheeks all rosy and cheerful? How can I simply love a person like you in the best way possible?


I have learned, yet I am learning still, to love you and to be loved by you, to forgive and to accept forgiveness, to change whenever there is a need for change. 


And so, may we be lifelong students of love,




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