Journal
Falling in Love
Silvia Beauty Portraits by Fen by felicia
04
Dec 2014

Early in my teenage years, I was introduced to this concept of a platonic relationship . For those of you who arent familiar with the term, a platonic relationship talks about having a close relationship in which there is no romance or sex. The majority of my friends were boys, and I only had a handful of girl friends. Somehow I thought being friends with girls were a little bit too complicated for me at that time. Boys dont care for much and the fact that I had a major crush on Gavan, Sharivan and Shaider made me feel like the boys got me more. During those times, I was one of the guys, and that suited me just fine.

Until I grew up just a little and started to notice one of my best friends and having this weird feeling of wanting to be more than just friends. Platonic relationships became a concept I had a hard time grasping – especially when my friend suddenly became cute . Wed still go out in groups. But when I became interested in my best friend, I no longer wanted us to mean us as a group, but us as in him and me. It felt weird at first, like falling for a brother or something, but it felt so comfortable and so right! Admittedly, it was a really confusing time for me. Until the day he told me that he felt the same way too! *big grin*

So, what of this platonic relationships? Can girls and boys really be friends? Hmm, they sure can. Until one of them falls in love with another. Thats why its important to guard your heart with all your might. Dont break friendships just because you were having a spur of the moment thing. Cupids arrows never accidentally hit you. You get to decide whether or not you want him to hit you. Think of your friendship and decide well.

On another note? What if the platonic relationship dies and a romantic one begins? Hey, thats great too. I am a strong believer of friends falling in love and I can attest to the beauty of it. There might be a little (or a lot, it depends) of awkwardness in the beginning, but here are just a three great things about falling in love with your best friend:

its comfortable. Forget the whole weird getting-to-know scenarios because since youve hung out together for a while, you already know what each other likes.

you get each other. Since youve been friends for a while and have probably talked more than one occasion, you can take off your first-date mask and be yourself without all the negative thinking.

your relationship will be more meaningful. You can skip the small talk and go deeper with getting to know each other. There is a big chance you will see him differently – more adoringly – than when he was just a friend. And he will do the same for you.

Falling in love with your best friend is not a bad thing. In fact, it is probably the best kind of love. Because the butterflies in your stomach might stop to flutter later in your journey, but to be married to your best friend – butterflies or not, you can be sure youll have a lot of fun together!

I look at these pictures of Silvia and all I can think about is the look on her boyfriends face throughout the session. He looks like he adores her so much. I can tell! It makes me think that theyre best friends too. Friends who fell in love with each other. Its really beautiful!

Love,

Fen

 
 
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