Journal
Hopeless Romantic
Fen Portraits by Will by Will
20
Aug 2014

There are people who are “tagged” as hopeless romantic, the sentimental Dreamer who believe in fairytales. We dream of roses and candlelight, walking on the beach at sunset, and dancing in the rain. When we love someone, we try to find a thousand thoughtful little ways to show our love. We make romance into an art form. Hopeless romantics may have our feet on the ground, but our souls fly somewhere over the rainbow. We love the ideas of love, in fact we are constantly in love with ideas of falling in love.

Girls, mostly, are always looking for Mr. Right. That’s why we love chick flicks . There’s always a dream boy involved. From the time, Jane Austen wrote about Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice, and today, in the age of Edward Cullen and Jacob Black. There’s a longing inside all of us girls for that one special one, the perfect boy who loves us unconditionally and treats us like a princess. The boy, we can talk to about anything, who can solve all our problems.The one to look forward to every waking hour, and smile when falling asleep. A boy who can make your LINE sounds so romantic and the love songs made so much sense to you.

Wanna know a secret? the boy exists. but, my suggestion to you is to stop looking. Instead look within you. True and real Love begins with first finding yourself, cause only if youre happy with yourself will you be able to embrace the other person just as he/she is. And you will find true love more easily. If its meant to be it will be! Without drama, it will happen and you will make your happily ever after even better than the fairly tales.

“In romantic relationships, falling in love is concept of moving from a feeling of neutrality towards a person. The use of the term “fall” implies that the process is in some way uncontrollable and risky – as in the phrases “to fall  or “to fall into a trap” – and that it leaves the lover in a state of vulnerability.

That is falling in love or INFATUATION in the different word. And It is important to differentiate it 🙂 We live with the misconception about what true love is. We have been fed this magical fairly tale like feeling when we were kids with all the fairy tales and the tall, dark and handsome or the tall, fair and beautiful cliches! Its the way story books and the media arebut then, we forget they are just stories. Meant to amuse and entertain. When in reality Love is far more beautiful than any fairly tale or any romantic story.

And this is what I have learned about love. Love stays. Love is something that takes time to grow and grows stronger over time, where infatuation is like a bomb that goes off and then is gone. Infatuation is all about the moment, about attraction and desire. Infatuation feels like a magic-spell; it’s out-there. It’s mostly all about how YOU feel. The person will seem perfect in every way. You think about them non stop. Just thinking about them makes your heart start pounding. You get so excited when around them. But Love lives in the heart and moves slowly, evoking warmth and smiles.”

Love is about the future and security. Love is mature. When you’re in love, you feel strong, full of life and happy. You feel secure and beautiful. With infatuation, you’re full of anxiety and worry. You want them, but fear you might lose them. Or fear they might disappoint and be disappointed. You fear a lot of things. With love, you have no fear of anything, because you’re secure in the arms of the one you love. Knowing He or she loves you still no matter what.

Love is patient . Time will prove love. Infatuation is about getting through today and hoping tomorrow will be good.

Love is secure. Love is knowing your heart is for another. Love means you accept each other as whole beings. Together you are make each of you, individually better.

Be In love because everything that fall will break.

Written by Fen
Dress by Melta Tan
Photo by Will

 
 
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