There has been lots of articles going viral lately about working moms versus stay at home moms. They are all great. All of them truly resonated in my heart. They have so much truth in them that I just couldnt stop the tears from running on my face from all the words. So much truth. But it also triggered and set some thoughts to motion.
I have set my foot in both worlds. I know what its like to have to remind myself countless times to get my head back in the game when my mind wandered off to cool air conditioned rooms where my toddlers were napping, especially as I was stuck in traffic on hot afternoons on the way to a meeting. I remember wrapping things up in a hurry every time it looked like the sun was about to set, just to make sure I make it back home in time to see my children before they slept. I have experienced the extreme exhaustion from the daily grind of being a stay-at-home mom – ferrying my children to and from school, managing the household chores, feeding my children, answering little curious minds and keeping them busy and how I would swing my arms around my husband every time he came home in time for dinner, because it meant that I could take longer than two minutes to shower that evening. I have also had my share of strong cups of coffee to keep my eyes open around midnight after the kids are fast asleep to submit the the stuff for work that were due that week, as a freelancer, trying to keep afloat with the family finances.
Through all of those experiences, never have I felt more superior to others, no matter which role I took on at that time. There was nothing significantly special in the differences between the roles. Instead, each brought me joy in its own way. So, I have come to the conclusion that it really didnt matter if I was a working mom or a stay at home mom or even a part time working mom. What matters is that I AM A MOM. Thats it. Period.
I know many of us moms read articles about the choices we made and we feel understood. We love the feeling of having others in our corner. But it doesnt mean that we dont appreciate the choices that the other half made. I dont believe that there are wars going on between career women versus stay at home moms, nor do I believe that we go on judging each other for choices of career or way of life. I believe that many of us tolerate and appreciate each others decisions because we understand that they must have been well thought through, that each decision have its own reason and justification, accompanied also by its own set of sacrifices.
I believe that moms appreciate each others decision because we understand. Because it the end, we know that whatever choices we make, it all comes down to this: we all have our childrens best interests at heart and we are content with whatever roles we let ourselves pick up. It is rewarding either way – whether we spend a good portion of our time at home or at the office – we are moms. Full-time moms. And we are all working towards the growth and well being of the children entrusted to us.