Micha & Natasha

The Wedding by David

We were in San Francisco one day. We were supposed to have an hour alone for the both us to find Christmas gifts for each other before meeting each other for lunch. We agreed that we’d get gifts below $50. I fully intended to honor that deal and bought him one side of a converse shoe (because a pair would cost me $100 and that would have been more than the amount we agreed on. LOL!) When we were done with lunch, I presented him with my gift, hoping that he’d appreciate my little joke. Instead, in exchange for my Christmas gift, he proposed to me with a ring that definitely cost more than $50 and by the end of that lunch date, I pretty much ended up with a fiancé. 

Micha and I first met in Melbourne, Australia where we were both studying. We hung out with the same circle of friends, and so we saw each other quite often. I remember how much I enjoyed going on road trips, riding go carts, going bar hopping together with our group of friends. We got a really good friendship going and we kept in touch even when we were both back home for good. We saw each other through attempts to find love… which often ended up unsuccessful. We had our considerations, but none of it made it to the heart. A couple of years later, Micha asked me how I felt about him. It caught me off guard. I mean, I knew that I treasured our friendship but I was surprised when I came to realize how dependent I was on him and how much I enjoyed being around him. So, to cut a long story short, we decided to give our relationship a chance towards the end of 2012.

As we transitioned from being friends to being partners, we had to make some serious adjustments. The great part about being best friends is that we pretty much knew about each other’s dirtiest secret. The worst part about it is that all that knowledge really drove us nuts. Fortunately, from the beginning of our relationship, we have always tried to love, respect and understand each other. I guess that is what got us through. 

As I got to know Micha deeper, the more I fell in love with him. The more I see him, the more I realize how much God loves me. The more I know him, the more I am reminded of God’s hands working in my life. Any prayers I’ve ever said, those I remember and those I forget, I believe that God is making things happen for me even if I don’t see it at first. To have Micha in my life feels like God taking care of me and the more I see him, the more grateful I become for God’s protection over my life. 

I am excited to embark on this new journey with my husband. I am excited to share our lives together, to learn about things that make us go gaga, and more importantly, to grow deeper love for one another. Sometimes I’m afraid to say it, but in all honesty, I am a better person when I am with him and I will eternally grateful for him. I believe that I am doing the same thing in his life.


Love,

 

Natasha

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01 Jun 2016

Yunior & Titian

The Wedding by Will

“Why did you finally decide to get married? Why now?” I remember asking Yun and Tian casually on the day of their wedding. “Why not???? If we wait for the time we’re in the right minds, we might not want to get married anymore!” they said, with a roaring laughter that made my entire day. 

If I had to describe Yun and Tian in a sentence, that’s probably it. They’re silly and crazy and filled with slapstick humor. Every word they say seem to cause belly-aching laughter. They are a riot! They bash and tease each other endlessly, but somehow, that’s just what makes them even sweeter.

I look at Yun and Tian on their wedding day and thought that there had never been a more perfect couple who fit each other like a glove they way do. It’s hard to believe that a few years ago, they were strangers who met by chance in a studio and how one exchange of phone numbers could turn them into soul mates. When asked about Tian, Yun would always say, “I thought she was like what the kids are calling her these days ‘sweet’, but once I got to know her… OMG!” with a shocked look on his face, to which she’d reply with something equally bashing. They didn’t need lovey-dovey sweet romantic words to describe just how romantic they really are. And that makes them all the sweeter. 

On the day of the wedding, it rained. But the rain seemed to have been welcomed, because it made the place cooler and felt so much more intimate. 

Congratulations on your new family Yun and Tian. Here’s hoping for a new addition very soon. Thank you for letting us be a part of your big day.

 

Cheers,

Will

 
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27 May 2016

Randy & Lilys

The Wedding by Dre

What is a wedding to you? What does it mean for you? When you’re preparing for the biggest event of your life, did you ever stop for a moment to think about what you want to achieve by doing it? 

I attended an extravagant wedding last year. Every little detail in the reception was well thought out. I felt like the bridal party - the bride, the groom, their families, their friends - really put a lot of thought into making the event a memorable guest experience. And true enough, it was indeed memorable. A few weeks after that, I attended another wedding. A smaller one. A much, much smaller one. The bride and groom kept it intimate and they were surrounded only by their closest friends and family. There weren’t any extravagant details, but there was a lot of joy in the room. There were roaring laughter over some silly inside jokes and lots of dancing… even in the rain! The wedding was just as memorable, in fact it was even memorable. There was rain and no extravagant details and yet, the wedding was perfect! 

I personally think that a wedding will be memorable, no matter how you choose to celebrate it. You can go big and make it memorable. You can also make it small, and it’s still going to be memorable. Just as you make the choice to get married, you also need to make the choice on the way you choose to celebrate your marriage. 

It’s sad to think that some people actually forget the joys of getting married as they bury themselves in the hassle of wedding preparations. They stress out over the tiniest details that, when they really think about it, doesn’t affect the fact that they’re actually getting married to the love of their lives! 

In my personal opinion, that is what a wedding should be to you! It is a celebration of love and the beginning of the rest of your lives together. That’s what you should be thinking of when you’re preparing for the biggest day of your life… because it is big! It’s a celebration of love. Look, I’m not trying to dismiss anyone from planning out the pretty details for your wedding. All I’m saying is that the party can be small and yet it will still be perfect and memorable and big for you, because the point is that you get married to the love of your life. 

Think about it. And choose what’s important for you. 

 

Cheers,

Dre

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25 May 2016

Darniel & Sylvia

The Wedding and Prewedding by Aha

Darniel & Sylvia 

The Wedding & Pre-Wedding by Aha

 

Can I just say, “It feels so great to be home!” You think you’d love a holiday, don’t you? To be a permanent tourist or a traveler of some kind? Mixing work and play? That does sounds wonderful, doesn’t it? Yes, it is, in fact, wonderful. But let me tell you, after spending three months in the land of the rising sun, as much as I enjoyed being there, there is really no place like home! It feels so good to be back! 

My three months stay in Japan will most likely go down in my bank of memories as one of the greatest experiences I’ve ever had in my life. The place was awesome, the people were lovely, the culture is beautiful, and please don’t get me started on the food… because I think I touched a little bit of heaven every time I put something in my mouth. I kid you not, you can practically throw a stone anywhere and there’s a huge chance that it’ll hit something delicious! Truth be told, the food is one of the reasons I am missing Japan already. 

Alright, enough about Japan, because this isn’t a post about Japan. I do, however, would like to share a life lesson I got while being there, while it’s still so fresh in my mind. It’s about patience. 

They say patience is a virtue. It’s a skill, actually; something that needs to be learned and practiced because it doesn’t come naturally. In fact, patience goes against all of our natural instincts. We usually want things, and we want them now. Waiting is torturous. We look for instant gratification because we naturally want to satisfy our wants at the moment we want it. But patience teaches us to suppress it and to go for the bigger goal. Patience teaches us to wait. That’s why patience is a virtue. 

One work day in Japan, something unexpected happened that turned my world upside down. I wish it was something positive, but unfortunately, it wasn’t. I couldn’t do anything about it, and instantly, I became frustrated. The language barrier and my lack of understanding of how things operated in Japan made matters worse. There was nothing I could do but breathe… and wait. Every time I was about to get angry, I breathed. As I felt my headache from frustrations, I breathed. Soon enough I learned that almost any feeling I had - related to this matter - could actually be avoided simply by breathing. To wait patiently for the matters to sort itself out became slightly more bearable. And I had learned something from this experience about being patient. 

Although the instant gratification may seem like the big win to you in one particular moment, don’t be fooled, because there can be a bigger reward waiting for you when you are able to exercise patience. Take my word for it; I’ve proven it. 

Thank you for sparing two minutes of your time to read my thoughts. 

I also wanted to share with you the wedding and pre-wedding album of my dear friends, Darniel and Sylvia. She’s super chatty and bubbly, while he’s calm and collected, and they make such an interesting pair to watch. More than the way the communicate with one another fascinates me, I am more amazed to watch the honesty they share. There’s nothing that can go past each other, you can see from how they look at each other, that they’ve got nothing to hide. 

Daniel and Sylvia, thank you for having me on your special day. And thank you for the friendship. 

 

Love,

Aha

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17 May 2016

Robert & Sarah

The Wedding by Donny

I go to a hundred weddings a year doing what I do. It’s can be crazy, but oddly enough, I still find myself feeling excited for every one of them. 

A hundred weddings a year - that’s a lot to remember. I must admit that it’s easy to let these weddings become a blur. If you told me the name of a couple, there’s a good chance that I’d find myself struggling to remember their faces or their wedding. It’s one of the many challenges I have as a wedding photographer and one that I am most urged to overcome, simply because I don’t want to forget. I know that each wedding I go to is special… It’s the beginning of a new life for them, and I want to remember it as much as they do. 

I want to remember. So, I make it a habit to find one moment - one moment, one distinct character, one occasion, one thing - anything, to tie me to the day and to the couple. Lately, if you asked me about a particular couple, I can probably say things like, “Oh, the one with the dress filled with intricate details” or “their decor was out of this world” or “I loved their first dance” or even things like, “their boutonnieres gave me the impression that they’re a very creative couple”. It can actually be anything at all… something distinct, that ties me to a couple, making them actually people, and not projects. 

Robert and Sarah were married during the weeks my calendar looked like colorful lego blocks but you know, they didn’t breeze past my memory. They actually stayed! And you know what was the thing that tied me to their special day? Have you seen how fit they are? Yes well, I actually remembered thinking that I needed to start lifting heavy things to get to where they are. *Wink*

I had a great day at Robert and Sarah’s wedding day. Theirs was something easy and casual, yet inspiring and memorable. Congratulations again to the happy couple.

 

Cheers,

Donny

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13 May 2016

Michael & Jenniffer

The Wedding by Adi

Then he looked beyond the thorn bushes, out into the big dark night. Nothing could be further than the sky.

“I love you right up to the moon,” he said, and closed his eyes.

“Oh, that’s far,” said Big Nutbrown Hare. “That is very far.”

Big Nutbrown Hare settled Little Nutbrown Hare into his bed of leaves. He leaned over and kissed him good night. Then he lay down close by and whispered with a smile, “I love you right up to the moon — and back.”

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12 May 2016

Ali & Shahana

The Wedding by Dre

The rays of sun went in through the large windows of the Grand Hyatt and lightened up its entire corridors where Ali was standing. He didn’t know it then, but in a couple of seconds after that, his heart and his mind would be filled with a beautiful picture - a new memory - that he will want to remember for the rest of his life. I watched as Shahana walk towards him in her white gown and saw his expressions shift. I couldn’t point out what it was exactly; it seemed like an erratic mixture of immense joy and pride, a little bit unworthy of her beauty, and maybe, a whole lot of gratitude for her being. But he looked happy. He looked tremendously happy. And Shahana’s face broke into a huge grin as she approached him. I stood there on the corner, capturing the moment with my camera and the feelings with my heart, trying (hard) to pull myself together, for that was by far, one of the most beautiful moments I have had the privilege to witness. 

I must admit that when I first learned of this project, I was a bit unsure of what to expect, but I was excited nonetheless. You see, I’ve never been too that many Muslim-Indian weddings or met a groom (and his entire family) who came from Cairo. But as someone who’s had their share of working with people from different cultural background, I anticipated that there would have to be a lot of understanding and tolerance. I was a little bit uncertain of the boundaries that I was allowed to show and what I couldn’t, so I made a point to ask for a brief guideline. However, after being around this beautiful couple for a while, I had forgotten about everything I worried about and actually found that I had worried for nothing, because not only were they warm and friendly, they were also accepting towards me and my team. No matter what traditions they were following at their wedding, one thing remained the same: two people in love are two people in love. 

As I stood there watching them, in that intimate moment they shared privately at the corridor (please don’t factor me or the videographers in, we were very quiet, I promise), I saw that no matter where you come from or what cultures you were raised in, love is felt the same way regardless. That look I saw in Ali’s eyes, I know so well… I’ve felt it and I know the feeling of my heart swelling ten times its usual size. Ali and I, we may come from different background, but I can understand exactly what he is feeling. 

Love is universal. It speaks a language everyone can understand, despite their cultural backgrounds, upbringing, knowledge, values, beliefs… Speak love. And everyone will understand. 

 

Congratulations again to the happy couple. 

 

Cheers,

Dre

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10 May 2016

Erick & Inezia

The Wedding by Paulus

A wedding is a celebration of love. How many of you can agree with me on this? 

So, naturally, it would be deemed appropriate and socially acceptable to show a little bit of affection towards each other in front of many other people on this day. How many of you can agree with me on that? All of you? Just as I thought.

I believe that at a first glance, everyone will agree with me. However, in practice, often times, people don’t. Especially the grooms. For some reasons unbeknownst to me, grooms find it challenging to show how they feel towards their brides. They probably feel awkward or shy, or maybe they feel like it would bruise their egos a little when they show how much they care… I’m not quite sure why, but come on, you guys… it’s your bride! 

As a wedding photographer, I prey on a couple’s chemistry. I’d patiently wait to capture their lovey-dovey moments on camera. And I encourage public display of affection - especially on your wedding day. So, let me share with you a tip to get over your shyness or awkwardness: Pretend that we’re not there. You won’t feel like you need to put on a show - and be completely awkward about it - if there aren’t any audience. Try, instead, to imagine that you are in a bubble, where only the two of you exist. That way, you might have a bigger chance of being true to who you are and won’t be afraid to show your feelings off towards each other. That sounds doable, right?

I don’t encourage public display of affection for photography purposes only, because, come on, how shallow do you think I am? I encourage it because although grooms (or men in general) would feel that it’s meaningless, I believe that it makes your bride swoon higher and your wedding day sweeter. Plus, an affection caught on camera to be cherished for years to come? Now that’s just priceless! 

 

Cheers,

Paulus

 

PS: Inezia, the bride, made her own gorgeous wedding dress. Beautiful, isn’t it?

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03 May 2016

Mile & Lauren

The Wedding by Adi
There was a day, five years ago in Jakarta, when my wife had to sit motionless for 3 hours at 3 in the morning, having her make-up done. Six hours later she announced her wedding vows, and then I drove her really fast to our reception venue, so she could have enough time for her 2 hours touch-up prior to episodes of traditional ceremony we had to be involved in, and then another 1 hour touch-up, to make sure her exhaustion was concealed well while hundreds of guests shaking our hands during the dinner reception. 
But that was sensible. Because she was trying to make everyone happy. She dreamt of wearing a white gown on her wedding day, while her grandma, in sweet and fragile voice, was adamant to organise a traditional Javanese wedding for her.
Who could say ‘no' to an 80 years-old grandma with puppy eyes? The solution was to preserve the Western style wedding for the morning, and the Eastern for the afternoon. Which also means enduring more than 5 hours of make-up sessions.
This scheme, however, is utterly irrelevant if you choose destination wedding, especially in Bali. Bali wedding is designed to keep your marriage ceremony personal and intimate. It is to avoid being robotic prince and princess showcased on a decorated stage in a hotel ballroom. You and your guests flew all the way into this pocket of paradise to escape the restless, and to be relaxed in the simplicity of tropical breeze.
That being said, you want your wedding make-up to also look easy and natural, yet outstanding in the same time. One thing to be sure of, you want to look far, far away from being theatrical and heavy. 
Furthermore, the pocket of paradise also comes in one package with hot and humid weather that would guarantee the haunting frizzy hair and shiny face. It is important for you to hire a make-up artist who excels in defeating greasy T-zones caused by the midday’s heat and moisture. Make sure he/she is geared well with waterproof liners and oil-free formulas. Try not to go for an indoor specialist that is accustomed to the air-conned occasions. This way you’d be able to lessen the time you need for touch-ups, and even better, skip the touch-up at all. 
Why am I telling you this? Because sunset offers the best lighting of the day, fantastic for the bridal party photo session. And where do I usually find the bride during sunset? In her dressing room, stuck in 2 hours touch-up session. This breaks my heart more often than not. It feels like going to Disneyland but misses out its happy parade. It feels like ordering a glass of mojito but letting the limes out.
Lauren decided to skip the touch-up at all, and it made me that day's happiest wedding photographer. She was effortlessly lovely and the only thing that shined out from her face was her graceful charms. Lauren and Milorad turned their simple wedding into a classic event with their elegant attitude and relaxed approach, while so much giggles and laughers echoed during our sunset photoshoot. 

Cheers, Adi
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20 Apr 2016

Devin & Winny

The Wedding by Will

Someone asked me a question a few days ago that I couldn’t stop thinking about until today: “Why do you want to get married?” At that moment, I found myself opening my mouth to speak, only to realize that I didn’t really know what to say. 

To be completely honest, I never really thought about it. I always knew that I wanted to get married, but I guess that I never really knew why I wanted to do it. I always thought that being married is a given thing. It’s something we do. We grow up, we get a job, we get married, and then we have a family. That’s just how I always thought my life would be, however, I never really thought about “why” I wanted to do any of it. 

I spent some time pondering, thinking of the answer to that simple, yet profound, question. Let me tell you, it wasn’t a question that had an easy answer… Despite not knowing why, I knew that I wanted to get married. I thought that, maybe,… No, wait. I knew… or wait, I BELIEVE that being married was going to make me happy. 

Yes. Being married is going to make me happy. And that’s why I am going to do it. But then, that begs the question, “Am I not happy right now?” And I find myself saying, “No.” Because I am, in fact, very happy right now. 

So, why do I want to get married? 

A credible survey pointed out that people marry for a number of reasons, among which are to have sexual relations, to get a life partner, to be loved, to provide a home for the children, to be socially accepted, to gain financial advantage, and to feel safe and secure. 

Then I thought, can these reasons be fulfilled even without marriage, though? Yes, in fact, they can. 

I guess that these weren’t good enough reasons for me to marry someone. So, after long hard thinking, I thought that the right reason to marry is, in fact, to fulfill my deepest desire for a compatible or suitable partner and to have a family of my own. To me, marriage is about knowing that I am ready for a lifelong commitment with someone I have chosen to be with for the rest of my life.

The moment I found an answer to that unexpected and yet so fortunately eye-opening question, I couldn’t wait to be married. I couldn’t wait to tell my fiancé that I wanted to spend the rest of my life loving her and making her happy, because I knew deep in my heart that I was ready to do just that. 

To every bride and groom who are getting ready to walk down that aisle, do yourselves a favor and ask yourselves, “Why do I want to get married?” and listen to the answers you have. It’s not an easy question but I promise you that the answers will be rewarding.

 

Love,

Will

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19 Apr 2016
All the way to the bottom already?