What is love?

Edwin & Shierla by Ivan

Sometimes it's the simplest question that can be the most difficult to answer. When you ask people a question about love, they offer so many different perspectives. Everyone has different stories, different journeys, different experiences. What people know about love definitely could be different than other by how they understand and describe it.

How about you? What does love mean to you?

Lately, a four-letter-word itself mostly become miss understanding, even lots of misconception and will ended up in unhealthy relationship. Some say “I love him, I can’t live without him”, but the truth is they may in unhealthy relationship. What is true love? It’s that the example of love? It’s when they say “I love you”, or could there be another definition?

People generally enjoy the early stages and initial feelings of liking someone. The desire to talk to and spend time together. The learning all those details about each other. You’ve got butterflies in your stomach. When you start to fall in love, you will see every goodness about them. But when both of you get to know each other and walk to serious relationship, mostly they find it disappointing and choose to end up their relationship because they feel that their spouse is not match to their hopes and expectations. How come? Don’t they start it with love or it is just a simple interest?

Sometimes married couple could be torn apart because they don’t feel sparks in their heart. Or shouldn’t they survive even there’s no love? Is it possible? It could be happening. After read this article, I bet you might be afraid and rethink “How about my spouse and I? Can we survive? What kind of concept that we must have?

Don’t we know that a lot of people choose to give up because they have seen a bad example and think   ”So, it’s okay if I do that too”. Now the thing that you have to do is to love your partner and let your relationship grows. Don’t let your spouse and yourself become stuck on the same level for so long. Make sure you and your spouse is your match from God, because God always want both of you to grows well, in personality, mind, and love. Love your spouse and changes your perspective about true love.

Love is simple. Love will find a challenges, but will never give up and always fight side by side. Love is giving. Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Love, once it finds you, is worth every fleeting moment of highs and lows. Love, although it may fade, never gives up on you. Love that leaves is not lost; it will find you again someday, perhaps when you least expect it or maybe when you really want it to. Love means letting yourself go. Love means giving in. Love means taking chances.

 

Love,

Ivan

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07 Oct 2016

Two Doves

Nico & Anita by Adi

Two doves meeting in the sky,
Two loves hand in hand eye to eye,
Two parts of a loving whole,
Two hearts and a single soul.

Two stars shining big and bright,
Two fires bringing warmth and light,
Two songs played in perfect tune,
Two flowers growing into bloom.

Two Doves gliding in the air,
Two loves free without a care,
Two parts of a loving whole,
Two hearts and a single soul.

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06 Oct 2016

Follow Your Heart

Chris & Gabriella by Will

“True love stands the test of time, distance, and absence, making it grow stronger. Difficult times only mean that love’s roots will grow deeper!” 

I don’t believe in love that hasn’t been tested. How can you trust love that hasn’t weathered through anything but the good? How would you know that it will last? How would you know if it’s even love at all and not a mere attraction or blind infatuation? Committing to love that hasn’t been tested yet is like baking a cake with a recipe that hasn’t been tried out yet. You’ll have no idea how it will turn out. 

I am in a long distance relationship. I have been for a few years now. I moved into the city a few years ago to pursue my studies then a career in photography, while my girlfriend stayed in our hometown. Although I’m relieved that we’ll finally end our long distance relationship journey when we marry, I’m glad that we actually did it, because I think loving from a distance is the perfect way to test trust between two persons and the relationship itself. I believe that when love has survived the distance, the absence, the time difference, and other forms of exams, then love is true. 

The test has not been easy on either of us. There were times when even technology couldn’t cure the lonely nights or straighten out a misunderstanding. There were times when our hearts were farther than the distance between us. However, we intentionally pulled ourselves closer before we could ever drift apart and we rooted our hearts into each others’ so that our love can grow deeper. Do I know how the rest of our lives are going to play out in the future? I don’t think anyone can say for certain. However, I’ve gotten a glimpse and I feel pretty good about it. Follow your heart… because when your heart is in it, no amount of distance or time or absence will ever break you. 

Trading stories with Chris and Gabrielle during our trip to Europe was really special. Chris met Gaby when he coached her basketball team back in middle school. They kept in touch and after getting together, a few years later, Gaby continued her studies in London while Chris stayed back in their hometown. They talked about long, winding, and bumpy roads and told me about how they’re so relieved to finally see a light at the end of their long distance relationship tunnel. Soon, they will be together and no distance will ever come between them again. 

Thanks for sharing your stories with me, Chris and Gaby, and congratulations on what’s ahead of you! 

 

Love, 

 

Will

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04 Oct 2016

Spot the dolphin!

Matthew & Olivia by Will

Have you ever seen a dolphin? If you have, you probably know what joyful and intelligent creatures they are. Even in captivity, they are endearing creatures that can bring our hearts closer to them just by watching them play. However, to see them, coincidentally, in the sea… now, that’s a special experience.  Sailors have long believed that dolphins sighting brings them good luck. These marine mammals are believed to be spiritual messengers from the sea. Well, call it a myth because it probably is, but after spotting a dolphin on the Amalfi Coast, I am slowly becoming a believer.  It was unintentional. We didn’t set off wanting to see dolphins. (That’s the reason why I don’t have any pictures of the dolphins. In case you want to scroll down this page, hoping to spot the dolphins, sorry to disappoint.) We were just on a yacht, getting ready to start our shoot, when we saw them. It was a rare moment. Even the captain said so.  We started the photo session with a lot of blunders. Starting with Matthew missing his flight from London to our car getting hit in Positano, just as we were leaving the hotel. Thank God, it wasn’t a serious accident and no one was hurt. However, it was definitely a downer. But seeing those dolphins, just dancing with playfulness and joy, even for a brief moment, I could feel the energy shift. Those few seconds made this trip really memorable.  Please browse through this pre-wedding album of Matthew and Olivia, taken in Paris and the Amalfi Coast of Italy. I hope you enjoy the pictures, even though there aren’t any dolphins in them.  Love,  Will

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22 Sep 2016

God’s hands

Albert & Vienna by Donny

I believe that all photo sessions need one thing in order to be successful: God’s hands.
I can already hear you snickering as you read this. I believe that you can plan all you want and the result can go completely the other way because you won’t have control over everything. However, when you surrender everything in God’s hands and let God take control, you will have peace over whatever result you receive at the end of the day.
I first met Albert and Vienna when Albert was about to propose to Vienna. They hired Sweet Escape to capture their moment and I was the photographer. Since we’ve met before (and I can only assume that they liked their pictures), they arranged for a pre-wedding photo session with a few months later. We had planned for a casual shoot with the best of Bali in the background. We had also hoped for cloudless and sunny sky. However, God obviously had other plans, because it rained hard that day and I was forced to rearrange our planning a couple of times to accommodate the weather. I almost felt slightly discouraged because we didn’t get to have that famous Bali shining rays in any of the pictures, but at the end of the day, I heard an exhale of relief escaping from Vienna. As she caught my eye and said, “Thank God it wasn’t so hot today. I can’t really handle the heat.”
Everything happens for a reason, my friends. And God knows the best. Even in the smallest little details, I believe that it happens within God’s plans for us. The entire shoot that day was a success because God’s hands was in it. I truly believe that.

Love,
Donny

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20 Sep 2016

Love Journey

Peter & Stefanie by Paulus

Every couple has their own unique story to tell. You do too, don’t you?

You can imagine how the story began. From the very first time you met your other half, finding common interests, the time when the sparks and butterfly started to tickle your stomach,the time when you introduce your other half to your parents and they welcome your other half happily, becoming a couple, accepting and respecting differences between you and your partner, perhaps even the taste of long distance relationship and then it comes, your wedding day.

That’s a journey. After all, every couple's journey is unique. The truth is not everybody will understand your journey and they don’t have to because the only thing that matters is you and your soulmate. 

Sometimes, people judge your relationship. “You guys don’t match, not harmonious, not made for each other” they said, but it all depends on how you run the relationship. The journey is a gift. It may be hard, tiring, exhausting and frustrating beyond belief. But at the end of the day, you will understand that every scenario you’ve gone through is about you and your spouse. It’s not about what other people think, their story, or their opinion. It is all about your journey.

Experience it. Be grateful for it.

Taking pre-wedding photos is a way to celebrate your love and share it with the world. Your photos will describe your love for each other in a romantic manner that will match your personalities. The photos can be taken from absolutely anywhere. After all, they are supposed to show your relationship and sum it up in a way words can’t. I’ve seen thousands of pre-wedding photo ideas and they all look amazing in their own unique and creative ways. 

How about your own love story? What if you can tell this love story to your future self 20 years later? Would you feel nostalgic and reminisce that sparkle of love when things are difficult in your marriage?

 

Cheers,

 

Paulus

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16 Sep 2016

A Sip of Brunello di Montalcino

Keith & Lily by Adi

A Tuscan leafy village was the path we walked on this time. You can imagine what kind of scenery would be like in a village such as this. Wavy hills. Patchwork vineyards. 400-year-old cypress trees. Protective walls. Bucolic open spaces with Fiat 500 scampering around, driven by old men in flat caps. Stores selling lovingly created Da-Vinci-inspired wines. And many, many, cheese enthusiasts come here to chew on coagulated sheep milk, to remember how nutrition used to be like in the olden days. 

 

Keith and Lily, both are the epitome of elegance and good taste. They engaged really easily with this comforting landscape. That’s when I knew it would be perfect if I could take my film camera out, and shoot in analog for the rest of the session. They said, “so be it," so that was how I rolled. This pre-wedding shoot was not about rushing-5-dresses-a-day at tourist hotspots. It was rather all about sunrise, sunset, and impulsive decisions. A gorgeously immersive experience. The memories linger.

 

Cheers, 

 

Adi

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14 Sep 2016

Best Laid Plans

Boywin & Novita by Aha

Plans don’t always work out the way we want it. I hate that. But there’s always some interesting thing to learn from or a story to take home at the end of it… and I love that! 

The pre-wedding session of Boywin and Novita was filled with great plans. We talked about everything from the get-go up to the tiniest little details. We were going to go to Japan and take some great shots in Tokyo and Kyoto. We listed down the places we wanted to go to and as we talked, I could already see the slideshow of great images playing in my head. I was excited and I couldn’t wait to see all our plans unfold. I got a handsome groom with a great smile, a beautiful bride-to-be, and Japan… nothing could go wrong, right?

Wrong. Unfortunately, on the day of the shoot, Mother Nature decided to turn her back against us. It rained heavily all day long. And as if that wasn’t enough to bring us down, we were stuck with a careless cab driver who couldn’t seem to understand a word we were saying, got us lost, and almost left us in the middle of God-knows-where! I’m not going to lie to you… I almost lost it right then. Especially when he was ushering us out of the car to take pictures in the heavy rain! I mean, drizzle I can do (I think I made some of my money shots with light rain!), but heavy rain? That couldn’t be good for any of us! We were far behind schedule as it was and I felt like I haven’t achieved anything. I was frustrated.

I remember struggling - inhaling and exhaling - just to keep it all together. Then I glanced at Boywin. He kept calm and called it a day. He suggested we end the shoot in Tokyo and just head for Kyoto on the bullet train. We rushed to the station, lugging all our luggages, and we barely made it in time for the Shinkansen to Kyoto. Just a minute late and we would have missed the train entirely. Imagine just what a day that would have been then. 

It was close to midnight when we arrived in Kyoto. I couldn’t wait to get in bed and forget about the day. But, of course, we just had to get lost there too! We knew the address but somehow, we couldn’t find the hotel. Fortunately, after only a short while of wandering around, we finally got into our warm beds. 

That day took such a toll on us that we didn’t have very much expectations the next day. We got up really early - despite being tired - to get to the Arashiyama Bamboo forest. Then, we just strolled around the city and shot wherever we liked. We found a spot with a big Sakura tree and shot there. We found a puppy and got her into the frame too. But in the midst of those shoots, things started to grow comfortable. We began to forget everything we experienced the day before and slowly, we began to really enjoy the photo session. We rushed back to Tokyo on the train that afternoon. I guess you could say that we want to make up for the time we lost the day before. 

As you can probably guess, our plans didn’t quite unfold the way we had hoped. The schedule was tight, the travel time between Tokyo and Kyoto and back again was pretty crazy, and that driver… I’m sure we never planned on him. However, in everything we have been through together during those two days, never once did I hear Boywin or Novita complain about the shoot. Not even when they were exhausted or upset. Instead, by the end of the session, Novita said, “These pictures will last forever and I’m glad that there’s a great story to be told behind all of it.” 

I’ve got to admit that I heaved a huge sigh of relief when I heard her say that. I’m glad that even through everything unfavorable, there’s something to be grateful for. Thank you, Boywin and Novita, for teaching me that even the best laid-out plans might not work out sometimes, but it’s still okay if we don’t let it bring us down. Thank you for trusting me to your photographer and for your friendship. I will never forget our story from Tokyo to Kyoto and back again. 

 

Keep in touch, 

 

Aha

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07 Sep 2016

Choose to Love

Stevanus & Ivana by Jan

The start of any relationship, engagement, or marriage must be a bed of roses. However as time flies, you will see that the roses have thorns after all. A lot of couples end their relationships in messy break-ups even divorces, resulting in heart breaks and emotional loss. Anything, and I mean anything, can happen in a relationship. Yet it's never a question of quitting when the storm comes, but compromising and finding a solution. If you're sure that he or she is the one from God for you, you won't easily give up when faced with turmoils. So what does it take for a relationship to last? A long lasting relationship requires effort and the key to make it work, is unconditional love.

Unconditional love is more than just a temporary feeling, but an action and commitment. Unconditional love is more complicated than simply loving your partner “no matter what.” Unconditional love requires stepping back and seeing the bigger picture of your partnership and how to maintain the health of the relationship so that love can continue to thrive and grow. The first step toward loving your partner unconditionally is learning to love yourself unconditionally. It requires understanding and communicating your own boundaries and limits, yet being flexible enough to adapt and compromise when possible. 

Recognize that love is a choice and decide to act in love no matter what your current feelings or circumstances. Always fight negativity with kindness. Avoid the dangerous habits of criticizing and condemning your spouse. Don't fight with your spouse just to prove that you're right. Realize that it's not worth it to win an argument just for the sake of winning, because by doing so you lose out on your relationship. Strive to look at a problem or conflict from your spouse's perspective. Change yourself, not your spouse. Realize that you can only take responsibility for your own attitudes and actions. Stop wasting time and energy trying to change your spouse, and focus on yourself instead. Know that by changing yourself, you'll change the dynamic of your relationship.

Don't compare your relationship to that of someone else. Understand that God has made you and spouse unique individuals, and that He has unique purposes for your marriage. Make a regular habit of counting your blessings and thanking God for what you do have so you can break free of envy. Seek to serve instead of being served. Rather than asking, "What can my spouse do for me?" ask, "What can I do for my spouse?" Don't keep score. Avoid keeping a record of wrongs to use against your spouse. Instead, be willing to forgive your spouse every time he or she does or says something hurtful. And most of all, it requires a daily mutual commitment to maintaining the health of the relationship and nurturing the bonds of love that brought you together in the first place.

No matter what happens, choose to love.

 

 

Jan

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31 Aug 2016

Love on the London Bridge

Rivano & Cicilia by Ivan

Every visit to London comes with a new-found love for the lively city. A walk along London’s Portobello Market to find cast-away treasures or rusty gems in antique shops can arouse the spirit of a vintage lover, and the vivid combination of colors can captivate even the least of all art enthusiasts. Or so I’ve heard. Until I visited this city myself and discovered that, yes, London is enough to satisfy the most curious creative hearts. 

I’m glad that Rivano and Cicilia chose the city so colorfully decorated by flea markets and the latest fashion as the backdrop of their pre-wedding portraits. I have never been in the city before and thus I had to make the extra effort to find out about the all great places to take pictures at. I was so excited to discover all the great things London had to offer us. We made sure that we got to visit most of the city’s famous landmarks and some pretty spots in between. During this visit, I have discovered that London does indeed relight fires and boost the energy of everyone in it. The vibrant vibes that comes out through every corner of the city is enough to awaken passion inside every heart, and I left only to find the a part of me will always stay gazing at the Big Ben and the London Bridge. 


xoxo,

 

Ivan

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26 Aug 2016
All the way to the bottom already?